“Healthy Competition”… a Contradiction in Terms.

Witnessing the media and social hysteria that surrounds many sports competitions always leaves me wondering why we condone this insanity.

Obviously, you say, this blogger is/was not an athlete.

No, indeed. I did ride a (girl’s) bicycle, for which you pedaled backwards and stood up  to brake.

I engaged in some pretty strenuous practical walking. I practised balance skills standing up on crowded buses, and weight lifting was carrying home a heavy binder and stacks of books for homework. We had no rec centers with swimming pools, no summer cottage, no money for summer camps. No one had back yard pools. There was no way to learn to swim. When I entered the public secondary school system in grade eleven I had never seen gymnastics before… even the forward roll was beyond me… the spring-board and pommel horse were the stuff of nightmares. The school had a cheerleading team… my mother thought this behaviour was highly unseemly, but I thought it had a dangerous glamour!

I owned my very first pair of slacks the summer before university when I worked as a playground supervisor. Girls did not wear jeans, which were the uniform of factory workers and the really tough guys… who were not allowed to wear them to school. Fortunately my playground partner was a jock who demanded to do everything active and interesting for the kids. I got the little kids, the playground equipment (ask me about the dangers of teeter-totters and sandbox wars), crafts, story hour, first aid, and the cranky girls who wanted to hang out and talk about boys and how awful their mothers were.

No, I was never an athlete… the excitement of competition, the thrill of winning, the heart-break of losing… these are not part of my experience. And I could never get excited about other people competing at anything. They were enjoying themselves, but why should anyone else care? As long as you did your best, you did not need to be the best. To strive to be best was arrogant … to celebrate it was conceited.

I began my teaching career as a high school English teacher, at a time when twice weekly phys ed classes were still compulsory in every grade, and competitive team sports were assumed to build leadership and co-operative skills, as well as “school spirit”. Fortunately my classroom was as far as possible away from the gym, and by keeping my head down and my mouth shut I was able to stay pretty much out of it.

When I transferred to elementary school fifteen years later, I had to teach my own phys ed classes… When you stop laughing I will explain that the pedagogical philosophy was completely different. The emphasis was on co-operative play, with lots of running and skipping games, silly relays, and playing foursquare and dodgeball with a very soft activity ball. Any child that tried to lord it over the others with superior speed or skill or to bully others by playing strategically to win was seen as vaguely anti-social and coached accordingly… “please don’t grab the ball away when it is Sally’s turn to catch it… I know you want your group to win, but everyone needs to take a turn… let’s see how we can help her…”

The children (boys) who were most aggressive… verbally and physically…  in the gym and on the playground were those who played little league sports. When a discipline problem arose,  their parents were also difficult to deal with. The argument, of course, is that “kids will be kids”, that “my kid is no sissy” and that aggressively competitive little league sports provide an outlet for safely channeling that energy. I wonder. Hockey was worst. Cause and effect? Who can tell. There was very little problem with children who took martial arts… where restraint and self-discipline, doing the movement perfectly, is part of the process.

So I have mixed feelings about sports and competition. I could write much more, but I found an article that says all I could, and then more. It is worth your time…

The Case Against Competition

By Alfie Kohn

When it comes to competition, we Americans typically recognize only two legitimate positions: enthusiastic support and qualified support.

The first view holds that the more we immerse our children (and ourselves) in rivalry, the better. Competition builds character and produces excellence.

The second stance admits that our society has gotten carried away with the need to be Number One, that we push our kids too hard and too fast to become winners — but insists that competition can be healthy and fun if we keep it in perspective.

I used to be in the second camp. But after investigating the topic for several years, looking at research from psychology, sociology, biology, education, and other fields, I’m now convinced that neither position is correct. Competition is bad news all right, but it’s not just that we overdo it or misapply it. The trouble lies with competition itself. The best amount of competition for our children is none at all, and the very phrase “healthy competition” is actually a contradiction in terms.

That may sound extreme if not downright un-American. But some things aren’t just bad because they’re done to excess; some things are inherently destructive. Competition, which simply means that one person can succeed only if others fail, is one of those things. It’s always unnecessary and inappropriate at school, at play, and at home.

Think for a moment about the goals you have for your children. Chances are you want them to develop healthy self-esteem, to accept themselves as basically good people. You want them to become successful, to achieve the excellence of which they’re capable. You want them to have loving and supportive relationships. And you want them to enjoy themselves.

These are fine goals. But competition not only isn’t necessary for reaching them — it actually undermines them.

Competition is to self-esteem as sugar is to teeth. Most people lose in most competitive encounters, and it’s obvious why that causes self-doubt. But even winning doesn’t build character; it just lets a child gloat temporarily. Studies have shown that feelings of self-worth become dependent on external sources of evaluation as a result of competition: Your value is defined by what you’ve done. Worse — you’re a good person in proportion to the number of people you’ve beaten.

In a competitive culture, a child is told that it isn’t enough to be good — he must triumph over others. Success comes to be defined as victory, even though these are really two very different things. Even when the child manages to win, the whole affair, psychologically speaking, becomes a vicious circle: The more he competes, the more he needs to compete to feel good about himself.

When I made this point on a talk show on national television, my objections were waved aside by the parents of a seven-year-old tennis champion named Kyle, who appeared on the program with me. Kyle had been used to winning ever since a tennis racket was put in his hands at the age of two. But at the very end of the show, someone in the audience asked him how he felt when he lost. Kyle lowered his head and in a small voice replied, “Ashamed.”

This is not to say that children shouldn’t learn discipline and tenacity, that they shouldn’t be encouraged to succeed or even have a nodding acquaintance with failure. But none of these requires winning and losing — that is, having to beat other children and worry about being beaten. When classrooms and playing fields are based on cooperation rather than competition, children feel better about themselves. They work with others instead of against them, and their self-esteem doesn’t depend on winning a spelling bee or a Little League game.

Children succeed in spite of competition, not because of it. Most of us were raised to believe that we do our best work when we’re in a race — that without competition we would all become fat, lazy, and mediocre. It’s a belief that our society takes on faith. It’s also false.

There is good evidence that productivity in the workplace suffers as a result of competition. The research is even more compelling in classroom settings. David Johnson, a professor of social psychology at the University of Minnesota, and his colleagues reviewed all the studies they could find on the subject from 1924 to 1980. Sixty-five of the studies found that children learn better when they work cooperatively as opposed to competitively, eight found the reverse, and 36 found no significant difference. The more complex the learning task, the worse children in a competitive environment fared.

Brandeis University psychologist Teresa Amabile was more interested in creativity. In a study, she asked children to make “silly collages.” Some competed for prizes and some didn’t. Seven artists then independently rated the kids’ work. It turned out that those who were trying to win produced collages that were much less creative — less spontaneous, complex and varied — than the others.

One after another, researchers across the country have concluded that children do not learn better when education is transformed into a competitive struggle. Why? First, competition often makes kids anxious and that interferes with concentration. Second, competition doesn’t permit them to share their talents and resources as cooperation does, so they can’t learn from one another. Finally, trying to be Number One distracts them from what they’re supposed to be learning. It may seem paradoxical, but when a student concentrates on the reward (an A or a gold star or a trophy), she becomes less interested in what she’s doing. The result: Performance declines.

Just because forcing children to try to outdo one another is counterproductive doesn’t mean they can’t keep track of how they’re doing. There’s no problem with comparing their achievements to an objective standard (how fast they ran, how many questions they got right) or to how they did yesterday or last year. But if we value our children’s intellectual development, we need to realize that turning learning into a race simply doesn’t work.

Competition is a recipe for hostility. By definition, not everyone can win a contest. If one child wins, another cannot. This means that each child comes to regard others as obstacles to his or her own success. Forget fractions or home runs; this is the real lesson our children learn in a competitive environment.

Competition leads children to envy winners, to dismiss losers (there’s no nastier epithet in our language than “Loser!”), and to be suspicious of just about everyone. Competition makes it difficult to regard others as potential friends or collaborators; even if you’re not my rival today, you could be tomorrow.

This is not to say that competitors will always detest each other. But trying to outdo someone is not conducive to trust — indeed, it would be irrational to trust someone who gains from your failure. At best, competition leads one to look at others through narrowed eyes; at worst, it invites outright aggression. Existing relationships are strained to the breaking point, while new friendships are often nipped in the bud.

Again, the research — which I review in my book No Contest: The Case Against Competition — helps to explain the destructive effect of win/lose arrangements. When children compete, they are less able to take the perspective of others — that is, to see the world from someone else’s point of view. One study demonstrated conclusively that competitive children were less empathetic than others; another study showed that competitive children were less generous.

Cooperation, on the other hand, is marvelously successful at helping children to communicate effectively, to trust in others and to accept those who are different from themselves. Competition interferes with these goals and often results in outright antisocial behavior. The choice is ours: We can blame the individual children who cheat, turn violent, or withdraw, or we can face the fact that competition itself is responsible for such ugliness.

Studies also show, incidentally, that competition among groups isn’t any better than competition among individuals. Kids don’t have to work against a common enemy in order to know the joys of camaraderie or to experience success. Real cooperation doesn’t require triumphing over another group.

Having fun doesn’t mean turning playing fields into battlefields. It’s remarkable, when you stop to think about it, that the way we teach our kids to have a good time is to play highly structured games in which one individual or team must defeat another.

Consider one of the first games our children learn to play: musical chairs. Take away one chair and one child in each round until one smug winner is seated and everyone else has been excluded from play. You know that sour birthday party scene; the needle is lifted from the record and someone else is transformed into a loser, forced to sit out the rest of the game with the other unhappy kids on the side. That’s how children learn to have fun in America.

Terry Orlick, a Canadian expert on games, suggests changing the goal of musical chairs so children are asked to fit on a diminishing number of seats. At the end, seven or eight giggling, happy kids are trying to squish on a single chair. Everyone has fun and there are no winners or losers.

What’s true of musical chairs is true of all recreation; with a little ingenuity, we can devise games in which the obstacle is something intrinsic to the task itself rather than another person or team.

In fact, not one of the benefits attributed to sports or other competitive games actually requires competition. Children can get plenty of exercise without struggling against each other. Teamwork? Cooperative games allow everyone to work together, without creating enemies. Improving skills and setting challenges? Again, an objective standard or one’s own earlier performance will do.

When Orlick taught a group of children noncompetitive games, two-thirds of the boys and all of the girls preferred them to games that require opponents. If our culture’s idea of a good time is competition, it may just be because we haven’t tried the alternative.

How can parents raise a noncompetitive child in a competitive world? Competition is destructive to children’s self-esteem, it interferes with learning, sabotages relationships, and isn’t necessary to have a good time. But how do you raise a child in a culture that hasn’t yet caught on to all this?

There are no easy answers here. But there is one clearly unsatisfactory answer: Make your son or daughter competitive in order to fit into the “real world.” That isn’t desirable for the child — for all the reasons given here — and it perpetuates the poison of competition in another generation.

Children can be taught about competition, prepared for the destructive forces they’ll encounter, without being groomed to take part in it uncritically. They can be exposed to the case against competition just as they are taught the harms of drug abuse or reckless driving.

You will have to decide how much compromise is appropriate so your child isn’t left out or ridiculed in a competitive society. But at least you can make your decision based on knowledge about competition’s destructiveness. You can work with other parents and with your child’s teachers and coaches to help change the structures that set children against one another. Or you may want to look into cooperative schools and summer camps, which are beginning to catch on around the country.

As for reducing rivalry and competitive attitudes in the home:

  • Avoid comparing a child’s performance to that of a sibling, a classmate, or yourself as a child.
  • Don’t use contests (“Who can dry the dishes fastest?”) around the house. Watch your use of language (“Who’s the best little girl in the whole wide world?”) that reinforces competitive attitudes.
  • Never make your love or acceptance conditional on a child’s performance. It’s not enough to say, “As long as you did your best, honey” if the child learns that Mommy’s attitude about her is quite different when she has triumphed over her peers.
  • Be aware of your power as a model. If you need to beat others, your child will learn that from you regardless of what you say. The lesson will be even stronger if you use your child to provide you with vicarious victories.

Raising healthy, happy, productive children goes hand in hand with creating a better society. The first step to achieving both is recognizing that our belief in the value of competition is built on myths. There are better ways for our children — and for us — to work and play and live.

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2 Responses to “Healthy Competition”… a Contradiction in Terms.

  1. Curmudgeon Bludgeon says:

    Alfie Kohn? Lol, the name says it all. Sounds like someone got one swirlie too many in middle school, and is taking it out on the world now.

    And you know what? The sad thing is, it’s working. The war on boys is in full swing, and the knock-on consequences are incalculable. You can find stuff on this all over the web, this is just a sample:

    /q/ Whitmire’s “suspects” for why boys have lost so much ground in schools includes video games, homework, male angst, _feminization of the classroom, disappearing male role models including teachers and failure to practice brain-based teaching_.

    Boys and girls learn differently. _Boys learn best when the teaching is interactive, physically active, project oriented and includes some competition_. Testing boys should reflect that./~q/


    Competition is _everywhere_ in education, and always has been. The difference now is that the forms of competition that boys excel at have become stigmatized and marginalized, while the forms that girls excel at have been pushed to center stage. You may be good with that, I don’t know, but any realistic assessment of human progress has to consider where the driving force and creative energy has generally come from. Does neatness count? Really?

    Sorry if I’m stepping on any toes here, but this article and the whole school of thinking behind it is crock. Yes, we all know that win-at-all-costs competition can become pathological, but then, we all DO know that, don’t we. Even boys in grade school know it, and there’s a whole playground code built around regulating competition and punishing offenders. (Pick on someone your own size, never hit a girl, don’t be a sore loser, no cheating, no squealing, no gloating, no whining, don’t be a prick, don’t be a suck, etc.) But saying that something needs regulating is not the same thing as saying it needs to be eliminated.

    And god knows, we don’t need either–regulating or eliminating–from “educational consultants” like Alfie Kohn.

  2. motleydragon says:

    Good to hear from you again, CB. I had begun to think that you had started to agree with me… or had given up reading the blog altogether.

    It appears that the pendulum, both in theory ( as in Mr Kohn’s argument) and in practice (as in my observations) has swung too far in one direction, and a correction is in order.

    ” Even boys in grade school know it, and there’s a whole playground code built around regulating competition and punishing offenders. (Pick on someone your own size, never hit a girl, don’t be a sore loser, no cheating, no squealing, no gloating, no whining, don’t be a prick, don’t be a suck, etc.)”

    Let me just remind you that at recess the games are usually played without a referee and without protective equipment. Two or three teachers trying to supervise the entire back campus are often stretched to thir limits (ask me how I know). The participation of children in “little league” sports with aggressive coaches who want to win… especially in hockey… has undermined the code that you remember. Stomping across the campus to break up a fight, first aid duty, trips to the principal’s office, phone calls home, automatic suspensions… I wish the boys I taught had actually known and respected that informal code. Maybe I just taught at tougher schools.

    I will study the article you cite, and reply or post again. I need to find out what this means, ” The difference now is that the forms of competition that boys excel at have become stigmatized and marginalized, while the forms that girls excel at have been pushed to center stage.” Girls have always done better in the classroom in elementary school… they know how to listen, a skill never acquired by some males.

    Perhaps Mr, Kohn would like to respond as well.

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